“Good grief girl, you did what? No wonder he isn’t calling you back!”
For as much dating as some of us do you’d think we’d all be experts by now, but rare is the friend who will tell you so bluntly that you’ve botched up a big date by making a classic mistake. So if you’re going on lots of 1st and 2nd dates but very few 3rd and 4ths (and you have no idea why) it might be time to do a little self-examination and make sure you’re not inadvertently screwing yourself by making one of these common dating mistakes:
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Drinking too much You might be tempted to keep downing margaritas in order to keep your nerves in check but watch it — if they sneak up on ya you’ll be making every mistake on this list before you know what hit you.
Talking about your ex Duh. Save the memory lane sob stories and angry venting for your friends.
Forgetting your table manners You might be a slob when you’re eating at home in front of the TV, but now’s not the time. Be on your game and don’t absentmindedly pick your teeth or blow your nose at the table. If you must then excuse yourself and take care of business in private!
Ordering the most expensive item on the menu So what if it’s both a good chance to make the most of a new restaurant and that it’s your right to order whatever you want! Classy people know that a date is really about meeting and getting to know another person, so show some restraint and order a little more modestly.
NOT SO OBVIOUS?
Being rude to the waiter Snapping at or complaining about a rude or incompetent server might seem like you’re just being assertive or make a common subject to talk about but whether you’re a guy or a girl, it really just comes off as abrasive and negative. You’ll be much more attractive if you come off as cool, happy, and pleasant.
Insisting on going Dutch Whoever initiated the date should pay, period (and yes, that usually means the guy!).
Texting or taking calls from friends Even if it’s a casual coffee or lunch date, taking a call or texting friends in the middle of it is just plain rude. If the person you’re with isn’t interesting enough to put the phone on silent for an hour or so then maybe you shouldn’t be out with them.
Any other major bloopers you’d like to add to the list? Maybe something that somebody did on a date with you that really turned you off?
haha.. good list, Rigel!
Along with talking about your ex, don’t diss on your friends or family….again, it comes off as negative, even if your mom/sister/best friend really is being a jerk at the time. Just pick another topic!
Also, don’t go on and on about how much your job sucks…no one wants to date someone who’s miserable or a complainer.