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“Of course, she will be all right, she has her family money, lots and lots of it, she has her self-righteous and anger and need for control. What she doesn’t have is a kind and loving heart.”

That wasn’t my point one bit. My point was she didn’t have to stand there like Silda Spitzer & take it on the chin in front of the entire world for no apparent reason. Those kind of histrionics *also* add unwanted fuel to the fire. By keeping herself out of the spotlit while the maelstrom erupted, she got to keep her dignity.

And secondly – why should we even care about the philandering of politicians? At this point, don’t we expect them to do these things? For once I am happy that one of these jilted wives didn’t weep and moan in front of the camera, that’s all.

Jenny is not totally innocent. She has known, not maybe in the bedroom, for months that her husband and father of 4 (Father’s Day-less) boys, has not been “in” the marriage.

She has been betrayed (which you never forget) twice: The discovery of the January letter copy in his files at the office, from “Maria”, and last week, when she found out from friends that he had taken a “hike” on the Appalachian Trail, far longer than National Geographic had maps. With his zipper undone. .” And that stupid statement at his 1st press conference, he was “Crying in Argentina.” The man is another George Bush. Psycho, stretched beyond his abilities, hiding behind the Church.

No woman, in my opinion, should suffer the 3rd strike. She may be a skinny fox, and wiping her own hiking shoes on his face on national TV (interview with CNN when she was leaving to go to the beach place is priceless. In my Hall of Fame), but she has the sad future of being Mother, Nanny, Substitute Daddy, etc., with a man whose wee-wee is more important to him than Father’s Day with his 4 (young) boys. What a waste product.

I know, like Ruth Huston (above) that science and psychology have all the answers, but this marriage is toast. And God will not provide. She has to deal with the Iranian anology to the saw, that you are sitting on, you can’t go forward, you can’t go backwards. She should shoot his ass, but that is not acceptable in Western society. Good thing he isn’t a Muslim. He is not fit for further public office (even with Republicans) but needs the paycheck. The divorce will be his attempt to get spousal maintneance (alimony) not time with his kids. How thes a***oles become fathers of kids is beyond me, eh?

And now, instead of laying low for the sake of her children, she adds fuel to the fire, adds to the publicity, all of which her children will be privy to. How lovely. Tellign the press that she does not care about the career of her sons’ father. She has family money, she doesn’t need to care.

Of course, she will be all right, she has her family money, lots and lots of it, she has her self-righteous and anger and need for control. What she doesn’t have is a kind and loving heart. So, her husband went elsewhere for some kindness and tenderness and romance.

Left unchecked, strong emotional bonds form, which lead to emotional infidelity, and eventually progress to sexual infidelity. As one blogger put it: He gave away his heart, one piece at a time. It was only a matter of time before the rest of his body would follow. More information about emotional infidelity, and further observations of the Sanford affair from an infidelity expert’s point of view at http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/