Little White Lies Spell Big Trouble

By Lisa M on August 13th, 2009

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Does this make me look fat?

Why does he keep calling?

When’s the last time you talked to your ex?

Lying – we all do it, we’ve all done it, and we will all lie again.  Thank Eve.  But do little white lies spell trouble in the confines of a relationship?  Is it ever ok to not tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

There are plenty of ways we justify lying in a relationship.  We tell ourselves that we are sparing someone potential hurt feelings or we may even figure that what the other person doesn’t know won’t hurt him or her.  But the reality is that lying is never the best option, and it spells the beginning of the end in any relationship.

So how do you avoid telling little white lies?  Follow these essential steps to start:

1.  Act honorably – Give it a try.  Only say and do things you won’t be ashamed of and will make your life partner proud to be your partner.  This may mean turning down a drink from a guy at the bar or not responding to emails from an ex.

2.  Reverse roles - How would you react if your partner gave out his number?  What would you say if you found out he was sending flirty messages to an ex?  Think on these scenarios before you do anything to open the door for a lie.

3.  Be honest - When push comes to shove, just tell the truth.  Your partner may not be thrilled with your response, but at least you can be true to your word.

As a person who has lied and been lied to, I can attest to the fact that it is just too much work.  If you want your relationship to work, work on being honest.  A relationship built on anything else is destined for failure.  So don’t fall in to the little-white-lie trap and enjoy the perks of a relationship built on trust and honesty.