Monogamy – a case for the committed ones

By Lisa M on August 14th, 2009

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Ahhh – the single days. Many women look back on them with nostalgia, and there are moments when I see a group of single girls out on the gown and part of me smiles, being taken back for a moment to the days of picking up guys, random hook-ups, and never having to worry about what time I was going to be home from my night out, if I chose to return home at all.

I recall as a single woman thinking that my friends in long-term, committed relationships were not having as much fun, let alone as much sex that I was having. But now that I’m one of those girls in a committed relationship after years of frolicking and fun, I can easily say that being committed to someone again is much more fulfilling than any part of my sex life during my single days.
I’ve boiled it down to three main reasons why:

1. Practice makes perfect

Every day, my partner and I get to spend time getting better and better at sex. I’m willing to accept the adage that practice makes perfect, and we both enjoy the practice it takes to achieve perfection. It feels good to meet up with the same partner in crime each time.

2. Goodbye self-conscience sex

When you have sex with someone you love, many of the worries of a one-night stand aren’t there. I’m not fixated on whether I can keep that perfect back arch I saw in a Playboy photo the entire time we have sex. I can just make love, be loved, and love back.

3. I want to try…

I feel like there are infinite possibilities in the bedroom or wherever we choose to do what we do and that feeling comes from the security of being in a loving relationship. I love the idea of being able to explore the wonders of the erotic world with someone I love. Being in a secure and loving relationship makes feeling uninhibited much easier.

Although I may look back on the days of single-girl sex and crack a smile when my brain remembers the fun I had, I wouldn’t trade it for the fun, security and love I get to have now. So, single girls, enjoy the days of being single, just remember that if you ever do commit, it doesn’t mean saying goodbye to having as much sex and having fun doing it.