Top 5 Ways To Spice Things Up In The Bedroom

By AV Flox on August 18th, 2009

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Once upon a time, I believed people were born knowing exactly what kinds of things turned them on. For a long time, this was true for me–I may not have known these things had a proper name when I was younger, but I knew that they turned me on.

As I got older, I had the opportunity to experience things I had never even considered. Many were epic, yes, but some of the most wondrous were simple delights.

Your sex life doesn’t have to be stale for you to try new things—open your mind. You never know what pleasures may await you on the other side. I know I didn’t.

Here are five of my favorites:

1.) Get Vocal

Talking dirty can be sexy. Giving directions can be useful. But I find that the biggest turn-on is to let go an moan like I have no neighbors. Moans have the power to guide a partner’s actions better than any spoken directions ever will. So much the better if he joins in. There is nothing sexier, I’ve found, than a man vocalizing how much he enjoys being inside me.

2.) Try Pain

It’s trendy, I know, but give it a try. Can you imagine a soft kiss where he has just bitten you? A caress where he has just spanked you? The juxtaposition of gentle and rough, of pain and pleasure, can take sex to new heights.

3.) Take A Bath

Pleasure doesn’t start with sex. It starts long before you find your way to bed. Everyone talks about massages, but I find that an activity with a purpose that isn’t simply please is much more delightful. I like bathing best when an individual thing: you run the bath and you bathe him from outside the tub. Or run the bath and he bathes you. When was the last time someone washed you down? It’s probably one of the most romantic and sensual things you could ever experience.

4.) Give Up Sight

Being blindfolded is an incredible exercise in sensory perception. We have a tendency to rely on our sense of sight to understand what is going on around us. When we give it up, the other senses have to rise to the occasion to ensure our body knows what’s going on. A blindfold or the simple act of keeping your eyes closed will magnify everything your other senses are perceiving.

5.) Learn Restraint

Being tied up or tying someone up is an incredible bonding experience. Suddenly, the person doing the tying is responsible for everything that occurs with the person that’s restrained. It gives them the opportunity to be creative. And it gives the person who’s tied up the chance to give themselves up entirely to the experience.

Take a challenge—pick one you haven’t done before, or one you haven’t done in a while, and give it a shot.

Got more? Tell me!