Comments on: Single Women May Still Want to Follow “The Rules” http://www.twirlit.com/2009/09/02/single-women-may-still-want-to-follow-the-rules/ Mon, 13 Feb 2012 03:43:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Gliding Calm http://www.twirlit.com/2009/09/02/single-women-may-still-want-to-follow-the-rules/#comment-5065 Gliding Calm Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:49:18 +0000 http://www.twirlit.com/?p=21437#comment-5065 I loved this. You are so wise Sarah! I loved this. You are so wise Sarah!

]]> By: Aysha Manori http://www.twirlit.com/2009/09/02/single-women-may-still-want-to-follow-the-rules/#comment-5063 Aysha Manori Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:21:45 +0000 http://www.twirlit.com/?p=21437#comment-5063 I feel like these days you can find a 'self help' book for everything... How to Make him Notice you, how to not care what people think, how to be happy and single, how to find the one.... OMG I feel like these days you can find a ‘self help’ book for everything… How to Make him Notice you, how to not care what people think, how to be happy and single, how to find the one…. OMG

]]> By: Red http://www.twirlit.com/2009/09/02/single-women-may-still-want-to-follow-the-rules/#comment-5053 Red Thu, 03 Sep 2009 16:18:05 +0000 http://www.twirlit.com/?p=21437#comment-5053 This is pathetic. Aren't dating and relationships already fraught enough without having to add some arbitrary "rules" to the process? The best relationships are formed when people accept one another for who they are from the very beginning. I don't like the implication in this article that women should affect some sort of make believe persona in order to attract a man. You say: "I made it seem like I had a full social calendar and more confidence (and better hair) than Donald Trump. I looked busy. I looked confident. I looked happy." How about instead of "making it seem like you have a full social calendar and more confidence" and looking like you're happy, try actually BEING those things? Or even if you are NOT those things, at least be comfortable and confident with the fact that you are not. Just as not every man wants to wear the pants in a relationship (shocker!) as you imply, not every woman has to play the hard-to-get coquette. This is pathetic. Aren’t dating and relationships already fraught enough without having to add some arbitrary “rules” to the process? The best relationships are formed when people accept one another for who they are from the very beginning. I don’t like the implication in this article that women should affect some sort of make believe persona in order to attract a man.

You say: “I made it seem like I had a full social calendar and more confidence (and better hair) than Donald Trump. I looked busy. I looked confident. I looked happy.”

How about instead of “making it seem like you have a full social calendar and more confidence” and looking like you’re happy, try actually BEING those things? Or even if you are NOT those things, at least be comfortable and confident with the fact that you are not. Just as not every man wants to wear the pants in a relationship (shocker!) as you imply, not every woman has to play the hard-to-get coquette.

]]> By: Maggie http://www.twirlit.com/2009/09/02/single-women-may-still-want-to-follow-the-rules/#comment-5018 Maggie Wed, 02 Sep 2009 23:49:54 +0000 http://www.twirlit.com/?p=21437#comment-5018 I think waiting... and then dropping big hints/opportunities (because men are oblivious) is the best way to go. I ditched my belly button ring too :P I think waiting… and then dropping big hints/opportunities (because men are oblivious) is the best way to go.

I ditched my belly button ring too :P

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