What can I say? I’ve been blessed. I spent most of my adult life surrounded by wonderful men. Having mostly male friends has helped me understand how the other half sees women. And for as many single, female friends I have looking for the right guy, I have single, male friends trying to do the same.
After spending a weekend with one of my boyfriend’s single friends and staying in touch with some single friends I knew from before becoming a California girl, I realized that some single men seem to have one common view of women.
Here, I present two men. Two viewpoints. One great lesson to be learned.
I may or may not have changed the names of the men named in this article in an effort to exploit, wait, I mean protect, the lovely bastards.
Brandon, Single Man in Portland, Oregon
“You have breasts. They’re like the skeleton key to a world of opportunity.” This was one of the first things Brandon said to me on our lovely Saturday spent getting acquainted a few weeks ago. Brandon, who is a quick-witted, handsome, college-educated guy told me more in that one sentence than most men could tell me in a year. I know many men with this point of view who look at women as the keepers of the sex. They seem to think that we have an easy life as single women. In their minds, all we have to do is walk in to the bar and pick our next victim. Men such as Brandon seem to view themselves as pawns in the game of sex and love and would love for a woman to make the first move and alleviate some of the pressure.
R.L.G, Good Ol’ Boys Town, OH
Although I don’t have a quote from this man that could sum it all up, I can tell you that women are not a mystery to him. He thinks he has it all figured out. In reality, he has figured all of his life out (successful, funny, good-looking) but little of love. He has, however, decided that women are too much work, hardly worth the drama, but he still craves companionship and sex. And this is where many attractive men find themselves – can’t live with women, need them for sex, want them for companionship. So what does a man like this do? He waits and lets women happen to him instead of him happening to them.
So what is the lesson here, single ladies? Both these men are professionals, have college degrees, but share one common denominator. They aren’t going to make the first move.
When you spot a man who seems to have it together in life, don’t assume he’ll be as aggressive when it comes to love. Follow the advice of Brandon, and start to believe that your breasts are indeed the skeleton key and begin to unlock the opportunity that awaits.
Comments
d-wrex
October 7th, 2009 - 7:29:17 PM
who are you trying to fool, you dont know any good looking professional dudes.
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October 10th, 2009 - 11:24:09 PM
I think the lesson here is that single ladies should avoid men who either view women as just sex objects or who have decided that relationships are "too much work." Too many women try to win over such men and find out the hard way that they don't make good partners instead of seeking out men who WANT committed relationships. One of the biggest sources of unhappiness is pursuing someone or something that is inconsistent with your own goals. If you want a relationship, you have to look for the kind of partner who will make a happy one possible.