Those of you who know me can go ahead and gasp, scream, or laugh a hearty laugh, but I am writing an article to ask people to return to doing things the old-fashioned way (I’ll call it the retro way for the hipsters from here on) – just get married.
Commitment ceremonies have become quite the rage among thirty-something, gen-xers. Perhaps it is our Rage Against The Machine way of saying, “F*@# you, I won’t do what you tell me.” Many people our age have attempted to get creative when it comes to showing the world that they love someone. As I researched the various methods people have used to symbolize their commitment to each other, I couldn’t help but laugh.
One couple decided to jump in a pool together at the same time to symbolize their love for one another. Another had their guests tie them together in a knot to symbolize their solidarity as a couple. Seriously? So you get out of the pool and now the two of you are…wet? You spend the evening tied together and at some point, when one of you has to go to the bathroom, or when you decide the rope is hurting your wrist, you’re officially not a couple because you’ve untied your couple knot?
Reading stories like the ones above made me ponder, what’s wrong with a wedding? Is it possible to bring back weddings, make them the cool thing for hip couples to do again? The word “wed” simply means “to pledge.” Isn’t that what people are doing when they decide to be committed to one another – pledging themselves to each other? The best wedding I’ve been to was in a grassy field, with the guests in a semi-circle around the bride and groom, listening while they pledged their love to each other. No pools, no knots, just two people stating in front of their closest friends and family that they loved each other and were promising to love each other from now on.
So, if you’re feeling the need or desire to make a public affirmation of your love and commitment to your partner, please consider doing it the way it’s been done before and just get married. Let the thing that makes it unique be that it is you and your partner doing it, not the use of ropes or a swimming pool.
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Comments
Kimbo
October 18th, 2009 - 3:55:58 PM
Love the article Lisa! Really, truly enjoyed smiling over something so simple.
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Ty
October 19th, 2009 - 5:26:37 AM
No one told me we could have gone swimming instead... ;P
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Kathy W.
October 19th, 2009 - 5:50:29 AM
Is there a between the lines message. I will have to say I did chuckle when I read it. Always believed in Marriage. Good article.
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Kathy W.
October 19th, 2009 - 5:52:07 AM
Is there a between the lines message? I will have to say I did chuckle when I read it. Always believed in Marriage. Good article.
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katie
October 19th, 2009 - 12:13:43 PM
how about you & your partner do what you feel best expresses your commitment to each other? umm, no one is looking for the approval of one Lisa M. on how silly or not their wedding vows look. besides a traditional marriage can be portrayed as just as silly as the examples you have given above. for example, in many Jewish weddings the groom will stomp on a glass afterwards -- lol! isn't that so funny!!! man people are so weird!! besides, a lot of people find traditional weddings to be very exclusive i.e. only accepting of straight couples, and sometimes not even those (see: recent louisana judge who refused an interracial marriage) anyway, my point is: a wedding (or whatever type of ceremony a couple chooses, be it a knot or a swimming pool) is supposed to be symbolic, it is a public commitment of love. and however they choose to symbolize that doesn't really matter, so long as what they are symbolizing is really there: love. but yes, isn't it just horrible how no one gets married anymore! America must be in decline!!
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