Fashion journalist Mimi Spencer has written a book for real women: 101 Things to do Before You Diet: Because looking great isn’t just about losing weight.

Amen.

We are a weight obsessed world, and most women feel they can’t be comfortable in their skin, or look great unless they lose weight. Furthermore, most women don’t know how to dress for their shape and, instead, try to shove themselves into smaller sizes. Meanwhile, if they wore what fits, or a different style, they would actually look much better.

Spencer is constantly surrounded by models in her business and knows first hand what it’s like to feel the pressure to be thin. She, like so many women out there, has tried every diet in the book. Her job, however, also gives her insider knowledge on how to dress for your size, shape, and how to enhance what you already have to make you feel like a star, which she is now passing to the rest of us.

Spencer created a new list of rules to live by (I know, more rules, but these are more like tips and tricks to pick from, promise) that any woman can follow to feel confident and look great without every using the word ‘diet’.

101 Things to do Before You Diet is an informative, easy read that covers all areas of confidence and style. With tips on how to fix your fattening habits, perfecting your posture to streamline your silhouette, finding the perfect pair of black pants, how to see through vanity sizing, how to find a hairstyle that fits your face, and how to keep your hormones happy, every woman can find new ways to boost their confidence, and their assets (finding the perfect bra is also a biggie) without starving, guilt or those deprivation mood swings.

Celebrate your body, don’t punish it.