Tips for A Happy (And Fight Free) Holiday

By Lisa M on November 16th, 2009

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It’s no secret that holidays are a stressful time. They can be even more stressful, though, if you and your partner are spending time with a variety of members from each of your families. Some of whom you or your partner may not enjoy the company of. But is it possible to weather dealing with an in-law’s condescending comments and an uncle’s bizarre pick-up line without having a fight with your honey?

Follow these steps to enjoy a hopefully fight-free time with each of your families.

1. It’s his bloodline, but it’s not him. Remember that although you may be dealing with his family, they are not him. Don’t blame your partner for things people in his or her family may do or say. Recognize that each of them are their own unique character and do your best to appreciate them as such.

2. Speak up. If someone does or says something that you know offends your partner. Let your partner know you care by sticking up for them if they feel uncomfortable. Or, if you know that may turn in to a full-on family feud you’d like to avoid, then speak to your partner before you visit family. Make them aware of some antics your uncle is known for so they can be prepared to deal with the behavior. At minimum, make your partner feel comfortable and wanted to the best of your ability. Simply holding your partner’s hand or squeezing their leg can send a non-verbal reminder that you are thinking of them in the midst of family time.

3. Be forgiving. If you know in advance that you dread the holidays with your partner’s family, be forgiving. Let go of any past issues before walking into the house for Thanksgiving dinner. Sitting smugly in the corner while everyone else is enjoying their time together will only make you more miserable. Further, be thankful that your partner loves his family and wants to spend time with them in spite of however crazy they are. After all, it’s a sign of good faith and commitment.

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