“Why, I wonder, is my heart full of holes…Oh I’m bragging…I’m always in love.” These lyrics from the band Wilco sum up the attitude of someone I know.
I have a friend who is always in love. Whoever he meets, whoever he dates, he falls head-over-heels in love.
While falling in love is all butterflies, sunshine, and rainbows, it is just a feeling. Let me be clear, I am not down and out on love. I love being in love. I’ve had the fortunate opportunity to be in love more than once in my lifetime and after years of loving and losing and winning, I’ve realized something very important. Being in love does not equal a successful relationship.
Falling in love is easy. Sparking personalities, great smiles, piercing eyes and hot bodies all make it easy. The hard part is finding a compatible match to fall in love with. Being in love will carry you a long way, just not all the way. This is where having a life-partner kicks in.
When I’m not feeling quite so lovey-dovey for a day, I know that my life-partner is my co-pilot on this ride of life. He is a great life partner regardless of how in love we feel that day. My life partner is someone I respect, trust, and the icing on the cake is that I’m absolutely madly and deeply in love with him.
Like many single women, I spent time post-divorce hoping to find love again. As I dated after my divorce, I realized that wishing for love wasn’t enough. I needed to find a life partner. I spent time defining what I wanted out of a partner. Once I had a clear definition of that, it was very easy to fall in love with my husband, who exceeded my wants and desires in terms of a life partner.
So if you’re a single woman waiting for love, consider redefining what you really want. Define what you want in a life-partner so when you find him or her your heart will feel what your brain already knows.
