Naughty, naughty, (insert your name here)! Don’t worry, I won’t tell anyone you’re a little intrigued by the idea of a threesome. I think I know more people who want to have one than don’t. So no worries, you are in supportive company.
Deciding whether or not to bring a third party in to your relationship is a big decision. And although many threesomes are the result of a drunken escapade, it is important that you carefully think out whether the threesome is for you. When the sunlight is hitting you and your partner in the morning, you may wake up with a lot of regret over your sex-scapade…especially if the third party is a friend. The threesome should not be entered in to lightly.
When deciding whether to threesome or not, there are important things to consider. Use these guidelines to get you and your mate thinking about whether or not to share your boudoir:
1. Get solid. If your relationship is not on solid ground, do not even think about a threesome. Adding another person can result in insecurity and jealousy if the two of you are not completely secure in your relationship. If you know now that your relationship is rocky, don’t go down this road. If the two of you are loving and supportive, you might be ready.
2. Identify why. Why do you want to have a threesome? Why does your partner want to have one? If either of you are using the threesome to add some spice to a lackluster sex life, I suggest you spice it up on your own. Think of being the third person and watching an un-passionate couple together. Awkward, huh? However, if you both want to have a threesome because you have great sex together and want to experience something new, you are going in to it with the right attitude.
3. Define boundaries. If you’ve decided to go through with a threesome, it is important to clearly define boundaries. What’s allowed? Get specific. Are you both allowed to have intercourse with the third party? Is kissing ok? I know it sounds silly, but imagine every potential scenario and discuss it. How are you going to feel when you watch your partner passionately kiss another person? If you know you are going to be jealous, the threesome is not for you. Define post-threesome boundaries too. Is your partner allowed to see this person without you? There are many fine lines that needs clearly drawn before you decide to threesome. This requires that the two of you communicate clearly what’s allowed and what’s not.
If you decide to head down threesome road, good luck and be prepared for some mixed emotions along the way. As long as you and your partner remember that the other person comes first and you communicate, your relationship may be ready for a little spice.
