First it was hairy legs. Now Mo’Nique hit the entertainment world with the announcement that she and her husband are so secure they have an open marriage. Mo’Nique and husband Sidney Hicks have been together for 25 years.
“Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker,” the actress told Barbara Walters in the interviewer’s Oscar special. “That’s not something that would make us say, ‘Pack your things and let’s end the marriage.’”
When asked to clarify the parameters of her open marriage, Mo’Nique stated that she has not had sex outside of her marriage, but her husband was permitted to do so.
Although I fail to understand why Mo’Nique isn’t getting her slice of the open-marriage pie, I do applaud her for not being afraid to tell the world her views on marriage. Although unconventional, it is encouraging to see people in our culture open up more about sex, love and marriage.
As long as each person in a relationship clearly understands and is comfortable with the rules of engagement, I say have at it. If the rules are that the marriage is closed, wonderful. If the rule is that it is open, that’s just fine too. The definition of marriage has evolved so much over time and it is obvious that one marriage mold does not fit everyone. Clearly defining what marriage means for each person in the relationship prior to marriage is of utmost importance.
However, it is important to keep an honest and open dialogue throughout your marriage. As wants and desires change, it is imperative that you have a partner you can talk openly and honestly with. As long as each person agrees on the marriage rules, I fail to see a problem with how a couple defines their marriage.
please didnt your momma teach you some things are better left unsaid ! please too much info MO!