To Hook Up Friends Or Not To Hook Up Friends
Playing Cupid involves more than strapping on your angel wings and grabbing your arrows. Deciding whether to hook up two single friends can be a difficult decision. Ramifications of a disastrous relationship can make things awkward for you and your friends in the long run.
If you are wondering whether to hook up two people who are near and dear to you, follow these guidelines:
1. Write the ground rules. If introducing two friends is the idea of one of your friends, issue some standard disclaimers. Let them know you are not responsible for whether the other person is interested. Tell your friend that venting to you about the relationship is off-limits so you won’t be put in an awkward position. Laying some ground rules prior to the introduction can make things a bit easier if your friends don’t end up getting married and living happily ever after.
2. Find your motivation. If you are the one initiating the meeting, define why it is important to you. If your motivation is so that your best friend can come on double-dates with you, then it’s likely not a good enough reason to play Cupid. However, if you genuinely think your two friends share some core values, go ahead and casually introduce them. If they are both adults and interested in each other, things will happen on their own.
3. Evaluate their past break-ups. Did your friend turn in to a psycho-stalker after her last break-up? Did he spend a year pining for his lost love after his last three-month relationship ended? If you know you’re dealing with two people who are unable to sustain friendships after a break-up, do not cross the streams.