Relationships
Charlotte Hannah
July 12, 2013

Crowdfunded Weddings? You’ve Got to Be Kidding Me


So you want to get married, but you don’t have the money to pay for the full marching band, 18-tier cake, photo booth with antique tickle trunk full of hipster props, and $100 per head dinner that a modern-day wedding requires. Whatever will you do?

The modern-day answer to this modern-day problem is, of course: crowdfund it!

That’s what grooms Cesar Hernandez-Topete and Miguel Munoz have done, creating a GoFundMe account in order to crowdsource $2,500 for their dream wedding. From their GoFundMe page:

“We became Domestic Partner’s on July 13th, 2012 and have continued to fight alongside thousands of other couples against PROP 8. With the landmark ruling that came a few days ago we ran down to City Hall to attain a Marraige License, given we have 90 days to complete it and limited funds for the wedding we decided to ask for your help in making our wedding a reality.”

Photo credit: Shutterstock

Photo credit: Shutterstock

“We’re using technology to make you a part of our special day,” they say in a video posted on the page. The question is, why would we want to be?

I don’t want to be too quick to jump all over these guys for being tacky. According to a comment purportedly from Munoz on an article on The Gloss, the GoFundMe page wasn’t meant to be public, and only gained popularity after the media picked it up. And, the reason their funds are limited is they’re currently in the process of adopting a child — an expensive endeavor, for sure.

But even assuming the crowdfunding campaign was only meant for friends and family and not the general public, is it bad etiquette to ask other people to help pay for your wedding?

On the one hand, it seems weddings are getting out of hand these days, what with the massive guest lists, elaborate dress and decor, and folks expecting to recoup the costs of their unnecessarily expensive parties with cash gifts from their guests.

But on the other hand, in Western culture, weddings are traditionally paid for by the soon-to-be-married couple’s parents. And many cultures do have weddings in which cash gifts are expected to help cover the costs of the wedding — Italians, for example, have the busta.

So, crowdfunded weddings: a symbol of modern wedding-related decadence or a frugal option for cash-strapped couples? Sound off in the comments.